Before you think that I have gone to the dark side, I invite you to #lyssten. Alyssa 3:16 says: "DTA, Don't Trust Anybody." Technically, Stone Cold Steve Austin said it, but we're going to borrow it here.
Don't trust anybody doesn't mean to be cynical. It doesn't mean to put walls up around your heart. It doesn't mean not to let anyone in. This is the complete opposite of what DTA means.
Don't "trust" anybody means to open your heart wide enough to let in compassion and understanding when you realize that we are all humans and we are all doing the best we can.
We have all experienced trauma. We are all survivors no matter how "good" or "bad" our life has seemed. We are all surviving on this crazy wonderful planet and we overthink. We don't think at all. Sometimes we're lost in the moment sometimes we miss multiple moments right in front of us. We self sabotage, we screw up, we make mistakes, we make statements that don't really reflect who we are, and sometimes we don't even know why.
It takes practice every single day to work on becoming in more and more integrity with yourself. Remember Kurt Angle's 3 I's? Intensity, Integrity, and Intelligence will get you far, but not unless you practice them.
When you trust that no one will ever hurt you or make a mistake or betray you or do you wrong, you are doing you and them a gross injustice. You are expecting them to be perfect and expecting yourself to have perfect conditions to respond to, and that's not how life on this Earth works.
Giving people the benefit of the doubt, and lysstening to them, to what they're saying AND what they're not saying, helps you to learn to trust YOURSELF. It helps build your muscles of discernment so you can Stone Cold Stunner any negative thoughts right out of your own brain.
Practice trusting life. Trusting that people are doing the best they can. Trusting that your intuition is growing even right now as you read this.
Alyssa 3:16 says don't trust anybody, but compassionately love and understand everybody.